Showing posts with label Gay life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Gay life. Show all posts

Saturday, June 2, 2012

Sanity Self-care

105128frazzled_tongue_105128 During my three week anti-burnout break I did a fair amount of thinking on ways to reduce and manage my stress level. I also contemplated several other areas (anger, support system and sleep)that contributed to my near burnout but I'll address those at another time.


I have been feeling like I work 24/7 because I use a laptop so the office is always with me. Obviously, part of reducing and managing my stress is living work at work. The laptop will only come home when I am traveling. There will be no work done at home with the possible exception of some reading since I find that relaxing. The hours I was working at home will transfer to the center with my new base schedule being 9:00 AM to 5:30 PM Monday to Friday.


A contributing factor to my stress is not "pampering" myself every once in awhile. So going forward I will indulge myself once or twice a week. Indulgences will include Starbucks, the occasional massage, a walk in the park and whatever may come to mind.


Quiet time is critical for my sanity and I have not been getting any for months. I will make time to journal, do guided mediations, read and laugh daily.These few concrete actions should reduce my stress considerably and make me and everyone around me happier.



Sunday, April 29, 2012

Priorities Beyond Marriage

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Marriage equality is the top priority for most of the lobbying class within the LGBT community. It is the elephant that sucks the air out of the room and rightly so, it is the single action that has the biggest number of benefits attached. Don’t get me wrong I am a supporter of marriage equality and actively participate in the effort to achieve it. However, there are other issues the LGBT community needs to have addressed.


Our youth are four times more likely to attempt suicide than their straight peers.  In a recent survey over half the youth responding to our Rainbow Youth Pre/Post Assessment (RYPA) reported seriously thinking of suicide within the last week. This is a frightening number. The RYPA is one of the assessment tools we use in our youth program at New Mexico GLBTQ Centers.


Our seniors are often forced back into the closet when moving to retirement communities or long term care facilities. They lack the support structure of children and grandchildren that their straight peers take for granted.  LGBT seniors live with a huge sense of isolation, especially in rural areas.


Another area that needs to be addressed is adequate and affirming healthcare.  In many areas it is nearly impossible to find healthcare and mental healthcare providers who have the cultural competency to give LGBT individuals quality care in an affirming way. Transgender individuals have a particularly difficult challenge.


We as a community and a movement need to place greater emphasis on these issues and ways to address them.  The research data and demographic data on the LGBT community are inadequate.  We need to push the federal government to include sexual orientation with race, income and other factors in all federally sponsored projects and surveys.  We must demand a regulatory environment both state and federal that encourages providers to make affirmative efforts to improve care for LGBT folks.


In an effort to engage and keep engaged youth, especially LGBT youth, all extracurricular activities including art, music, theater, politics and GSAs should be incentivized similar to football and basketball. Our educational system puts too much emphasis on sports and winning while leaving creative pursuits that develop critical thinking skills and more by the wayside.


Where there is an unmet need and advocacy will take time we must create our own service delivery system. People’s quality of life is being affected every day we can’t wait until all the stars align perfectly, all the sub-population (no matter how small) are at the table or for there to be total agreement and no risk to act. We don’t need to reinvent the wheel.  We need to bring together the individuals with the expertise to make things happen, create an action plan and start building something. We can bring other people and resources into the project as we go.


Leadership knows when to stop discussing and start doing.  It’s time to start doing.



Friday, March 16, 2012

Priscilla is Coming

Join us for a special viewing of The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert on Friday, May 18 at the Rio Grande Theatre. Doors open at 6:30pm Movie starts at 7pm. In addition to the movie viewing, there will be a Drag Show, Auction, Games, and Light Refreshments. All proceeds will benefit the New Mexico GLBTQ Centers. Purchase before March 22 and you will have premier reserved seating at this spectacular event!


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Monday, February 13, 2012

Reflections on Creating Change


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Awesome, reinvigorating, educational, social, enlightening, grounding, connecting and appreciative are just some of the words that come to mind when I think of the 24th National Conference on LGBT Equality: Creating Change. This year’s conference in Baltimore was my third Creating Change. It has become one of the two must do conferences each year.


One of the striking things about attending Creating Change is the number of young people who attend. Of the nearly 3000 of us in attendance, 25% or more were youth. These youth ranged from high school students wanting to learn how to make their schools safer and their communities better to college students who are starting a community center in their rural community. These future leaders are an inspiration with their creativity, passion, energy and unbridled enthusiasm.


Creating Change always puts things in perspective by showcasing the sheer size and diversity of our movement.  Prominent roles are always given to people of color, Native Americans, youth and gender diverse individuals.  The talents of our movement are showcased by over 250 volunteer presenters sharing history, lessons learned, strategies, tactics, research, tools, methods and programs to advance progress on equality and improving the quality of LGBTQ lives. It is easy to become isolated in the silos of the niche we work in but these several days in Baltimore quickly remind you that while our approaches may differ we are all working for the same end, better lives for our community.


The Task Force does an excellent job of fostering a culture of sharing. Creating change is about developing leaders who effectively and efficiently collaborate with other leaders to effect positive change in their communities. Creating Change is about creating partnerships, like New Mexico GLBTQ Centers and Services and Advocacy for GLBT Elders (SAGE USA) and learning from experts in various segments of the movement so we don’t waste time reinventing the wheel. Creating Change is the largest capacity building opportunity the GLBTQ community has and it saves lives by allowing us to move things forward faster than we might otherwise here at home.


Creating Change is also a loMa.caket of fun!  Food Network celebrities baring custom cake from America’s “Ace of Cakes” (Mary Alice, Charm City Cakes) to film screenings to youth and 50+ dances to more receptions than you can keep track of there is no reason to get bored.


Throw in cheer moms going to dinner in the hotel restaurant in their PJs, and it gets even more hilarious.


I’ve been to conferences which were massive wastes of time, money and energy. Creating Change is a massive opportunity. A massive opportunity to be awesome, reinvigorated, educated, enlightened, grounded, connected, appreciative and fired up. It is such a massive opportunity that one person cannot glean all the nuggets of wisdom.  We need a Creating Change Team to go to Atlanta, learn and come back to New Mexico and teach




A closing shot….. of the cake!


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SAVE THE DATE: I hope to see you next year at the 25th Creating Change in Atlanta, January 23–27, 2013. A quarter of a century in the making, we won't want to miss this one!


 


 


 


 


 


 


 


 


 


 


 


 



Sunday, December 4, 2011

If I Find A Quiet Place ....

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One of my simple pleasures has always been reading. The last few years it has been difficult to indulge myself given my work with New Mexico GLBTQ Centers, until July a job at Kohl's, and other projects.


With the addition of a puppy and a nine year old in June and a 15 year old in October finding the quiet place has become as much or more of a challenge than locating the time.


I had a goal of reading 12 books in 2011, six fiction and six non-fiction, I finished two. Obviously, I need additional motivation beyond the joy of reading. So I am going to attempt to play in LGBT Reading Challenge 2012 at LGBT Reading - The blog for all those who enjoy reading and writing about LGBT (related) books.


Any book suggestions?