Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Saturday, April 7, 2012

Distractions, Priorities and Hard Choices

Thumbnail.aspx       I have been working on a major grant application for the past few weeks and not getting very far. I have been distracted by drama on all sides. The major drama has been “kid drama”.


All I will say is the “kid drama” was serious, more serious than we realized. The good news is we seem to have arrived at a turning point. The next few days will be critical in this turning out positively. This brings me to priorities.


Several important commitments are due in these same critical few days, what should the priority be? All of the choices are important, some to the centers project, the community and to the kiddo. What trumps what?


Not long ago I would have said the community and/or center trump everything; I would have been wrong. The centers project is already having an impact on the GLBTQ community and will continue whether the current grant application is finished or not. A young person’s future is at a critical point and in need of support. I have asked funders what one youth’s life is worth in terms of investment when seeking funding for Rainbow Youth in fairness I have to ask myself the same question.


The response I am looking for from funders is tens of thousands of dollars, when in fact there is no cost too great. The hard choice I made was to cancel a trip to Los Angeles related to the centers and pass on the grant because the time needs to be spent on supporting the kiddo.


Whether folks think I made the right choice or not, I believe I have. Part of leadership is making potentially unpopular choices and standing by them. I often don’t take ownership of my leadership because I’m an introvert and not completely comfortable in the leadership roles I find myself. In this case I am comfortable and totally own this as a leadership decision.



Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Good Bye 2011

What I Am Most Proud Of From 2011
Models of Hope Honoree
Founding Member of the Dona Ana County Community Unity Coalition
City funding for Rainbow Youth
Affiliation agreement for Gallup Center
Dear Harvey production
Presenting roundtable at the New Mexico Conference on Aging
Elected to the CenterLink board
The Las Cruces GLBTQ Center at almost 2 years old
Being Dad to two kiddos
Applying for SAGE affiliation
12 years with Richard


What I Am Least Proud Of From 2011
Not achieving any of my 2011 goals
My lackluster leadership
My inconsistent results
Not paying enough attention to family


Lessons Learned
Everyone’s level of commitment is different
Everyone’s sense of urgency is different
Everyone’s timeline is different
Communicate tasks and expectations clearly
Get out of my head, it’s dark in there


2012 Theme
Positive Consistency – living the moment with a positive outlook every time.


2012 Goals
I will be within my recommended weight range of 127 – 159 by the end of the year.
I will read 8 books at least 2 of them fiction by the end of the year.
I will devote at least 7 hours per week to family time.
I will visit my sister by the end of the year.
I will spend two hours a week developing myself personally and professionally.



Sunday, December 4, 2011

If I Find A Quiet Place ....

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One of my simple pleasures has always been reading. The last few years it has been difficult to indulge myself given my work with New Mexico GLBTQ Centers, until July a job at Kohl's, and other projects.


With the addition of a puppy and a nine year old in June and a 15 year old in October finding the quiet place has become as much or more of a challenge than locating the time.


I had a goal of reading 12 books in 2011, six fiction and six non-fiction, I finished two. Obviously, I need additional motivation beyond the joy of reading. So I am going to attempt to play in LGBT Reading Challenge 2012 at LGBT Reading - The blog for all those who enjoy reading and writing about LGBT (related) books.


Any book suggestions?